A controversial post circulating on social media has ignited an intense debate within the Indian diaspora, especially among students and professionals living abroad. The post, written anonymously from the perspective of a woman offering advice to fellow Indian women, discusses dating European men in their twenties for “experience and thrill” — but ultimately settling down with Indian men for “loyalty, stability, and financial support.”

The message reads in part:

“Relationships with European men are exciting — they’re attractive, tall, charming — but usually lack long-term stability. These men expect equal partnerships, including financial responsibilities, and don’t feel the need to chase or financially support women.

I always tell Indian girls abroad to date European men in their 20s for confidence and experience. You’ll feel attractive and validated in ways you may not have back home. But in the end, marrying an Indian man is the wiser choice. Indian men abroad have fewer dating options, so they tend to be more loyal and financially supportive. They may not give you the same chemistry, but by then, you’ve had your share of romance and adventure. Just some advice from a sister.”

The post has gone viral, triggering a storm of reactions online.

Many criticized it for being exploitative, shallow, and transactional — encouraging women to seek temporary thrill with foreign men while treating Indian men as fallback options for marriage. Critics used harsh terms like “Should Indian men marry second-hand girls?” to condemn the sentiment.

However, some defended the post as a reflection of female agency, highlighting the double standards around dating and sexual freedom.

“Men have done the same for decades—date freely when young, marry later. Why shouldn’t women do the same?” one male user responded. “As long as my partner hasn’t dated Indian guys before me, I’m fine if she’s had experiences with Europeans.”

Others held a more conservative view, emphasizing values like sexual exclusivity and suggesting that both men and women should ideally wait until marriage to engage in serious relationships.

This incident has quickly evolved into a broader conversation about modern dating, gender expectations, cultural double standards, and how traditional Indian values are evolving — or clashing — in global settings.

As the post continues to make waves, it’s clear that issues around love, loyalty, and identity remain deeply personal — and deeply polarizing — topics for Indians both at home and abroad.